I also need to clarify... I stated before that the children we will be adopting are "special needs." All children that have been in foster care are labeled "special needs." It's not because of any impairments, it's because the life they've led has caused unique traits. For a child to be available for adoption their parent's rights have been terminated due to abuse, abandonment and/or neglect. Any and all of these things effect the brain development, behaviors, physical development, attitudes, etc. of children. When their needs aren't met their brains develop and process differently. Every adult they have loved and trusted has failed them, why should Tom and I be any different - this causes attachment disorders, which can manifest in many different forms.
Therefore, they are all labeled special needs. This is also why we have to do all of the classes and meetings and such. It's to prepare us as best they can for the upheaval these children will bring into our home.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
a speed bump
When we last met with Liz she went over the results of the marriage evaluation and felt it would be a good idea if we saw a therapist together. It wasn't surprising to either of us, we know what is and isn't strong in our marriage, we certainly know there are areas we could do better in. Actually, we saw a therapist 2 years ago but didn't care for her and didn't walk away with any tools to help us outside of her office. There are a couple of therapists within the same organization we are adopting through and since only 1 is a preferred provider, we chose her. So we have met with Barb twice now and so far it feels like we are wasting time. Our first meeting was an introduction to her, like a solicitation of herself, knowing we can go to any number of therapists in this town. The 2nd meeting was her getting some background info from us - I felt like I could've done that by filling out a form - so that felt frustrating. Liz asked that we meet with Barb for a month before returning to meetings with her.
I'm trying to keep it all in perspective: Tom and I need to be as prepared and strong for these kids as we can be, this is one way to be sure we are capable of handling what is thrown at us down the road. It just feels like delay after delay. The bright side is the extra time allows me to work on my new business venture (that most of you probably don't know about) and have that established before the kids come.
So...I'm starting my own business as a professional organizer. In fact, I just registered my company name today: Natural Organizing. It will allow me to set my own schedule and be the mom I want to be.
I'm trying to keep it all in perspective: Tom and I need to be as prepared and strong for these kids as we can be, this is one way to be sure we are capable of handling what is thrown at us down the road. It just feels like delay after delay. The bright side is the extra time allows me to work on my new business venture (that most of you probably don't know about) and have that established before the kids come.
So...I'm starting my own business as a professional organizer. In fact, I just registered my company name today: Natural Organizing. It will allow me to set my own schedule and be the mom I want to be.
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